I was recently riding with my sister and 3 year old niece; my sis. sat in the back with her, to keep her company, since we had a long drive ahead of us. She turned to her mommy and said 3 simple words, “I need help.” I could not help but then reflect on how difficult it becomes to say those three words as adults. Why is that? Pride, independence, an assumption that we cannot depend on others…what?
Her mother believes that it is due, in part, to the fact that as soon as we pass the foundational years, we are taught to be self-reliant and independent, and the better we are at achieving those goals, the better off we are. Maybe she has a point. I’m still pondering. Thoughts?
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Well missy, I have to assume you are talking about me :). With the desire and NEED to have independence (or I would rather call it the ability to survive any place/ any how 🙂 ) , we must also know how to be dependent without having shame. This is another ‘bullcrap’ notion we’ve been taught (whether it’s by family, the way we see others, our country, etc), ‘we shouldn’t ask for help or be self reliant in all things’ after a certain amount of time. Basics, yes….but don’t ever be too arrogant to acknowledge you need help.
I thank lil mama for what she teaches me. While I think I teach her how to live life, she teaches me what life is all about. I will continue to ask for help as needed and bid her and all to do the same. It took me a while to get to that point as you had to get past a mentality that’s been built up, but now that HES’ got me, I completely understand and encourage having a dependent nature on HIM.
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